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It’s hard to know what to do, how to feel, or what your options are after a sexual assault. Please know that you’re not alone.
Here are three tips about what to do if you or anyone you know has been raped:
- Find a safe environment, away from the attacker. Ask a trusted friend to stay with you.
- Remember that what happened was NOT your fault.
- Ask the hospital to conduct a rape kit exam to preserve forensic evidence.
You may not have safety had control over the situation but you have control over what you can do thereafter.
Your rape does not define you.
You are a beautiful individual and being a victim of rape does not make you any less beautiful.
Do not question your life choices, you were and are not at fault. Being a rape victim was not because of the clothes you were wearing, it was not because of the underwear you were wearing that made your confidence level rise. It was not because you decided to go out and have a good eveing.
Rape is an act that should not be tolerated.
At Men Against Rape we stand up against sexual assaults, we are against these individuals being a part of society and are determined to lower the rape statistics on South Africa and the world alike.
1, 716 hours of rape before I reached the age of 12 years.
The betrayal of being sold by my parents
I was sold into a murderous pedophile network right around my 6th birthday.
Adult men were part of this exclusive network.
The children were the commodity; they were mostly used for sex.
A number of the members from this network found pleasure in killing children.
Watch the full rape story below:
We want to create a society where children will be safe, where children will have a community behind them.
Every child deserves safety.
At Men Against Rape we stand up against these injustices that are portrayed by individuals of a undesirable nature.
If you or anyone you know has undergone social injustices, contact us today.
We are here to help and prevent future attacks.
If you do not feel comfortable in a situation and there is a sexual advance being made it is rape and you have the right to speak up!
We were alone in the house. He started off being nice, but at one point he went out and when he came back he had condoms. I was in shock – I had no idea this would happen. He then told me to get undressed and I said “what for?” I felt completely powerless and scared. He was older and bigger than me and very assertive and dominating; he made me feel compelled to do what he said. I was worried that if I refused he might get aggressive and he could turn nasty. I really didn’t want to find out what would’ve happened if I didn’t do as he said. I felt completely taken advantage of.
What happened to me too a toll on my confidence levels. The only person I could talk to about these experiences was my NSPCC counselor. He was so understanding and supportive. He talked it through with me and helped me work through the shock of what happened. We talked about how I can feel less powerless and safer. We worked on boosting my self-esteem. I think without his help I would have so much less confidence in myself. I’m so glad I had the NSPCC to talk to.
For the Ambers full story, click below:
At Men Against Rape we assist in traumatic experiences through guidance. We stand against rape and believe that we can make a difference in the South African community.
We ask you to stand up and voice your opinions and stories. Men Against Rape is here to listen and help.
Contact us today and make a difference. Remember that you are not a victim but a victor.
I am not a victim, I am a victor.
The end of a busy work day was the start of an unforgettable night.
My colleagues and I were picked up by an unknown car carrying 3 men that gave off a strange atmosphere.
The driver took us off road. I started panicking and asked him where he was taking us, but instead of answering me the guy seated at the back with us took out a gun and pointed it straight at my head. He told us to shut up and behave or he’d blow us up. We were all so frightened.
We were taken to a nearby veld where the three men, all armed now, started assaulting us. They took our phones and all our belongings. One of them started to strip my uniform and forced me onto the ground.
He raped me right there with my colleagues helplessly watching.
One of the other guys, carrying what looked like a kitchen knife, came up to me and also tried to force himself on me – when I tried to resist he stabbed me in my thigh and forced my legs apart.
My friends watched in horror as all this was happening to me, but where still helpless.
The next thing I knew I was thrown back into the car. They drove off with me leaving my friends behind.
As the car sped off two of the guys continued assaulting me, beating me and calling me names. I prayed to God to take my life as I couldn’t take the pain anymore. It was then that the thugs threw me out of moving car on to the middle of the road.
As I lay there covered in my own blood all I could think was that this was the end to me. I couldn’t feel pain anymore – my whole body was numb. As I lay there I couldn’t wait for a car to hit me and finish me off.
But God had other plans for me.
I must have passed out because the next thing I knew I woke up in the hospital with friends and family by my bedside. To this day, four years later, no arrests have been made but I believe God will bring me justice one day.
I’m still trying to cope with what happened to me and I refuse to be called a victim of rape. I am a victor. I survived the worst experience any woman can and I am still alive to tell my story.
Women are not the victims of rape; they are the victors of a brutal life experience.
It was my 16th birthday.
My boyfriend came to stay with us for the weekend. When my parents went to sleep that evening I got us some cold drinks. After awhile I started feeling weird. Everything just happened from there. He started undressing me, and I just went along as if I had no resistance. The next morning my body hurt so bad.
Two weeks later I found out I was pregnant, and it turned out my boyfriend drugged me. I had an abortion because I hated him. Today I wish I could see my baby who would have been four months old by now.
When you are unable to give your consent toward a sexual act whether it is with your loved one or a complete stranger it is rape!
At Men Against Rape we do not stand for these actions . Taking advantage of another persons body to satisfy personal sexual desires is unacceptable and needs to be stopped!
Contact us today with your story or with a solution that can help assist females in similar situations.
Remember that: REAL MEN DO NOT RAPE!
Being raped was my burden to bear and no one else’s to know about.
My silence has cost me dearly.
When I was 15 I was violently raped by a stranger on a night out with friends. I was too young to understand the complexity of this kind of violence but old enough to know I should be deeply ashamed of it — and so I told no-one. The physical trauma I experienced has wreaked havoc on my body and left me with two chronic illnesses that will stay with me for life.
I’ve realised my inability to speak about the way male violence has affected me only contributes to the stigma that enforced my silence.
So I have decided, after a decade of keeping quiet, to tell my story in the hope that it will create space for others to do the same, and that we might finally stop shaming and blaming women for the sexual crimes perpetrated against them.
No matter the complexity of your situation, once you voice your experience we can assist you in the search for justice.
That was too long ago for me to remember…
My home was broken by abuse and tried to be relieved through suicide.
Courage was essential to move forward.
Meeting the man that caused so much of pain to my hero was one of the most difficult things to do.
Words hurt you know…
Strength was needed to move forward…
My hero left a bad situation for a worse one.
My step dad raped me when I was 10 years old.
Continuing every school day.
My hero didn’t believe me…
Persistence got me out when I was 13 years old and filed for a restraining order.
Was this nightmare finally over?
He came back…
He beat me
He raped me
He threatened me
Being alone was the worst…
Nine years till I finally got justice!
This is a story of a brave young girl that shows so much potential. Her past does not define her. Despite her difficulties and the challenges she faces daily, this is not her end.
She wants her story to inspire others to speak up and be heard.
Everything will get better in the end and if it is not better, then it is not the end.
We are here to stand up against these acts that torment young ladies.
We stand up against perpetrators to create a brighter future for those in society.
If you have a story, do not be afraid to share it.
We are here to help.
Use your voice, fight for justice.
There are a quite a few reasons why victims may not report their case.
Did you know that in on average there are 147 rape cases daily?
Imagine the number of rapes that occur if all women report their cases.
Here are a few reasons why rape victims do not report their cases:
Many women fear the retaliation or intimidation of the perpetrator.
Some women may even lack the access to services.
Many women feel personal humiliation of being exposed as a victim of rape in a community.
Rape has a psychological effect on the minds of its victims and may not allow them to fully comprehend the intensity of the occurrence.
Many victims may also feel ashamed of it because they feel that their partners and loved ones may perceive them in a different manner.
On various occasions the perpetrator is known to the victim and is a frequent member of their lives.
Some may even rely on the perpetrator as a financial foundation, this occurs in scenarios whereby the victim is a child or the family may reply on the perpetrator’s income to survive.
We need to stand together against the fear that women have. We need to stand together to get rape victims to express themselves.
Could you imagine being raped, take control over and having your rights stripped away from you by the same person you wake up to everyday?
Why are we allowing the women of our country to go through this?
Let’s stand up and make a difference in society.