MAKE A DIFFERENCE – MAKE A STAND
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A 57-year-old Limpopo pastor found guilty of two counts rape – including that of a minor – was on Monday released on R200,000 bail pending sentencing.

The Seshego man, James Thubakgale, was convicted at the Mankweng regional court moments before making a formal bail application.

National Prosecuting Authority (NPA) spokesperson Mashudu Malabi-Dzhangi said Thubakgale was standing trial on two counts of rape he committed in January 2012. One of the rape victims was 14 at the time.

In a separate case, Thubakgale is facing charges related to several other crimes which were allegedly committed in Seshego, the NPA confirmed.

Thubakgale, from the Deliverance Church of Christ in Seshego, will head back to court on August 27.

“He and five members of his church will again appear … on multiple charges emanating from the crimes they allegedly committed in the Seshego policing area. The five, aged between 24 and 59, are on bail,” said Malabi-Dzhangi.

The case against Thubakgale has been postponed to October 21 and 22 for sentencing.

Rape victim stories can be very difficult to read, frightening and emotionally draining for some but stories of rape show other victims that they are not alone in their struggles. Rape stories detail the many abuses that some people suffer and yet survive and go on to succeed in recovering and regaining control of their lives. Rape victim stories can help others to realize that there are other survivors that have been through exactly what they have and come out the other side a whole person.

 

The below story is about a young lady that was taken advantage of and how her story unfolded.

 

I walked into my best friend’s store, just like I did every other day. My friend Lawrence’s cousin, Ziyad, was there. I had never met him before. I was helping out at the store, it was no big deal- I did it every other day. My mom worked there too, but she wasn’t there that day. I was an innocent little 13 year old girl, I basically knew nothing about sex, and I never thought that I could be raped. I always said “It could never happen to me.” But it did. And to this day, I live with the regrets that I thought nothing like that could ever happen to me.

 

Ziyad grabbed me by my arms and drug me into the bathroom. I screamed. He put this hand over my mouth and started to undo his pants. Knowing what was about to happen I froze. My whole body went numb. I couldn’t move. After he was done, he got dressed and walked out of the bathroom like nothing happened. He left me there with my tears. When he walked out the door, he took with him my pride, my security and my virginity. I had so many thoughts going through my mind.

 

We made a police report, they took me to the hospital to have a rape kit done. The police took my case to the state prosecutor before the rape kit results came back. They said there wasn’t enough evidence to prosecute and dropped my case just like that.

 

I’m currently in counseling 2 times a week, and I’m on pills for depression. I can’t fall asleep at night without the TV on. And I’ve already given myself an ulcer from worrying so much. I know things will get better and eventually I will be able to live a normal life again, but right now it is hard. Very hard.

 

Rape victims endure immense amount of traumatic pain after the event occurs. Men Against Rape stand by these individuals and ensure that they understand that there are individuals who care for them and will not stop until they receive the justice they deserve.

 

Contact Men Against Rape today to assist you with any experience you are experiencing.

 

We are here to help.

Rape can be categorized in different ways. This means that rape can depend on the situation in which it occurs, by the identity or characteristics of the victim, and by the identity or characteristics of the perpetrator.  These categories are referred to as the different types of rape.

 

Below are listed a few different types of rape:

  • Date Rape
  • Gang Rape
  • Spousal Rape

 

Date Rape:

Did you know that the term “date rape” is used to refer to various types of rape?

 

This is generally referred to as acquaintance rape. Acquaintance rape is a form of non-domestic rape which is committed by an individual who generally knows the victim. This type of rape is commonly a drug-facilitated sexual assault, this means that the rapist intentionally drugs the victim with date rape drugs so that they do not have a clear consciousness. This specific type of rape is the most common to occur and constitutes the vast majority of reported rapes.

 

A frequently overlapping category is incapacitated rape, where the victim is incapacitated and unable to give consent – this is often the result of intoxication, but can also simply be because the victim is asleep or has a medical condition.

 

Gang Rape:

Gang rape occurs when a group of people participates in the rape of a single victim. Rape involving two or more violators is widely reported to occur in many parts of the world.

 

This is a type of rape that generally involves the intoxication of alcohol or other drugs that are consumed. Night attacks are a common playground for perpetrators.

 

Gang rape is a serious form of rape that leaves the victim in an emotionally traumatized state of being. This is not a rape type that is taken lightly if you or anyone you know has undergone this traumatic experience it is essential to remember that an immense amount of therapy should be performed before the victim reaches a state of being overwhelmed.

 

Spousal Rape:

 

Spousal rape is also referred to as marital rape. Wife rape, husband rape, partner rape or intimate partner sexual assault, is rape that occurs between a married or de facto couple. Research reveals that victims of marital/partner rape suffer longer-lasting trauma than victims of stranger rape

 

Many individuals choose to continue the relationship that they have with their partner even after undergoing this traumatic with the individual they assumed would never hurt them.

 

Men Against Rape stands to provide an open platform for those that have undergone this traumatic experience. To become a part of the solution contact Kavisha Hurbans to find out how you can contribute and assist those in need.

 

 

 

 

You are beautiful

You are precious

Your life matters

Your heart is special

 

Your experience does not define you.

Your experience is not who you are.

 

Your life matters!

 

Just because someone else has a dark character does not mean that you are dirty, it does not mean that you are impure, it does not mean that you are no longer an angel.

You are a delicate rose and your garden is sacred.

When your flower starts to droop plant a seed and start again.

This is not the end but the start of a new chapter.

 

YOUR LIFE MATTERS!

 

 

 

 

Rape is a traumatic experience that often results in embarrassment and left with a self-judgmental feeling. This experience leaves a victim feeling impure and dirty. Their body does not feel like it is their own.

 

Rape is an inexcusable act that needs to be stopped. As a group we need to stand together and be the voice of reason. Use the weapon that was not stripped from you. Stand up and make a difference, rape victims know how the experience feels. We need to stand together to ensure that no one else has to endure that pain.

 

It’s hard to know what to do, how to feel, or what your options are after a sexual assault. Please know that you’re not alone.

 

Here are three tips about what to do if you or anyone you know has been raped:

  1. Find a safe environment, away from the attacker. Ask a trusted friend to stay with you.
  2. Remember that what happened was NOT your fault.
  3. Ask the hospital to conduct a rape kit exam to preserve forensic evidence.

 

You may not have safety had control over the situation but you have control over what you can do thereafter.

 

Your rape does not define you.

 

You are a beautiful individual and being a victim of rape does not make you any less beautiful.

 

Do not question your life choices, you were and are not at fault. Being a rape victim was not because of the clothes you were wearing, it was not because of the underwear you were wearing that made your confidence level rise. It was not because you decided to go out and have a good eveing.

 

Rape is an act that should not be tolerated.

 

At Men Against Rape we stand up against sexual assaults, we are against these individuals being a part of society and are determined to lower the rape statistics on South Africa and the world alike.

 

 

 

“He was next to me and I have no idea because I was so out cold,” she says. “This person, who I’m supposed to trust, would drug me and make me be so out cold that I couldn’t respond if something was wrong with my children.”

 

She was reviewing files on his hard drive and made a shocking discovery: four videos he filmed raping her while she lay unconscious. In one video, the camera zooms in on her face and lying next to her in the bed is her young son.

 

Womens’ rights groups campaigned state-by-state for lawmakers to change their laws, and by 1993, marital rape was technically illegal in all 50 states. But, there’s these little loopholes and sub-statutes that hide deep in the books that pop out every once and awhile.

 

We need to stand up together against all forms of rape, whether it be marital rape or date rape, rape is rape and should not be accepted.

 

At Men Against Rape we stand up against these injustices of life and attempt to rectify these actions of abuse.

 

Stand up with us and make a difference.

 

 

 

It’s hard to know what to do, how to feel, or what your options are after a sexual assault. Please know that you’re not alone.

 

Here are three tips about what to do if you or anyone you know has been raped:

  1. Find a safe environment, away from the attacker. Ask a trusted friend to stay with you.
  2. Remember that what happened was NOT your fault.
  3. Ask the hospital to conduct a rape kit exam to preserve forensic evidence.

 

You may not have safety had control over the situation but you have control over what you can do thereafter.

 

Your rape does not define you.

 

You are a beautiful individual and being a victim of rape does not make you any less beautiful.

 

Do not question your life choices, you were and are not at fault. Being a rape victim was not because of the clothes you were wearing, it was not because of the underwear you were wearing that made your confidence level rise. It was not because you decided to go out and have a good eveing.

 

Rape is an act that should not be tolerated.

 

At Men Against Rape we stand up against sexual assaults, we are against these individuals being a part of society and are determined to lower the rape statistics on South Africa and the world alike.

 

 

1, 716 hours of rape before I reached the age of 12 years.

 

 

The betrayal of being sold by my parents

 

I was sold into a murderous pedophile network right around my 6th birthday.

 

Adult men were part of this exclusive network.

 

The children were the commodity; they were mostly used for sex.

 

A number of the members from this network found pleasure in killing children.

 

Watch the full rape story below:

https://youtu.be/tR6rMRo1d_8

 

We want to create a society where children will be safe, where children will have a community behind them.

 

Every child deserves safety.

 

At Men Against Rape we stand up against these injustices that are portrayed by individuals of a undesirable nature.

If you or anyone you know has undergone social injustices, contact us today.

 

We are here to help and prevent future attacks.

If you do not feel comfortable in a situation and there is a sexual advance being made it is rape and you have the right to speak up!

 

 

We were alone in the house. He started off being nice, but at one point he went out and when he came back he had condoms. I was in shock – I had no idea this would happen. He then told me to get undressed and I said “what for?” I felt completely powerless and scared. He was older and bigger than me and very assertive and dominating; he made me feel compelled to do what he said. I was worried that if I refused he might get aggressive and he could turn nasty. I really didn’t want to find out what would’ve happened if I didn’t do as he said. I felt completely taken advantage of.

 

What happened to me too a toll on my confidence levels. The only person I could talk to about these experiences was my NSPCC counselor. He was so understanding and supportive. He talked it through with me and helped me work through the shock of what happened. We talked about how I can feel less powerless and safer. We worked on boosting my self-esteem. I think without his help I would have so much less confidence in myself. I’m so glad I had the NSPCC to talk to.

 

For the Ambers full story, click below:

https://www.disrespectnobody.co.uk/real-stories/ambers-story/

 

At Men Against Rape we assist in traumatic experiences through guidance. We stand against rape and believe that we can make a difference in the South African community.

 

We ask you to stand up and voice your opinions and stories. Men Against Rape is here to listen and help.

 

Contact us today and make a difference. Remember that you are not a victim but a victor.

 

I am not a victim, I am a victor.

 

 

 

 

The end of a busy work day was the start of an unforgettable night.

 

My colleagues and I were picked up by an unknown car carrying 3 men that gave off a strange atmosphere.

 

The driver took us off road. I started panicking and asked him where he was taking us, but instead of answering me the guy seated at the back with us took out a gun and pointed it straight at my head. He told us to shut up and behave or he’d blow us up. We were all so frightened.

 

We were taken to a nearby veld where the three men, all armed now, started assaulting us. They took our phones and all our belongings. One of them started to strip my uniform and forced me onto the ground.

 

He raped me right there with my colleagues helplessly watching.

 

One of the other guys, carrying what looked like a kitchen knife, came up to me and also tried to force himself on me – when I tried to resist he stabbed me in my thigh and forced my legs apart.

 

My friends watched in horror as all this was happening to me, but where still helpless.

 

The next thing I knew I was thrown back into the car. They drove off with me leaving my friends behind.

 

As the car sped off two of the guys continued assaulting me, beating me and calling me names. I prayed to God to take my life as I couldn’t take the pain anymore. It was then that the thugs threw me out of moving car on to the middle of the road.

 

As I lay there covered in my own blood all I could think was that this was the end to me. I couldn’t feel pain anymore – my whole body was numb. As I lay there I couldn’t wait for a car to hit me and finish me off.

 

But God had other plans for me.

 

I must have passed out because the next thing I knew I woke up in the hospital with friends and family by my bedside. To this day, four years later, no arrests have been made but I believe God will bring me justice one day.

 

I’m still trying to cope with what happened to me and I refuse to be called a victim of rape.  I am a victor. I survived the worst experience any woman can and I am still alive to tell my story.

 

Women are not the victims of rape; they are the victors of a brutal life experience.