If you do not feel comfortable in a situation and there is a sexual advance being made it is rape and you have the right to speak up!
We were alone in the house. He started off being nice, but at one point he went out and when he came back he had condoms. I was in shock – I had no idea this would happen. He then told me to get undressed and I said “what for?” I felt completely powerless and scared. He was older and bigger than me and very assertive and dominating; he made me feel compelled to do what he said. I was worried that if I refused he might get aggressive and he could turn nasty. I really didn’t want to find out what would’ve happened if I didn’t do as he said. I felt completely taken advantage of.
What happened to me too a toll on my confidence levels. The only person I could talk to about these experiences was my NSPCC counselor. He was so understanding and supportive. He talked it through with me and helped me work through the shock of what happened. We talked about how I can feel less powerless and safer. We worked on boosting my self-esteem. I think without his help I would have so much less confidence in myself. I’m so glad I had the NSPCC to talk to.
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