MAKE A DIFFERENCE – MAKE A STAND
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Rape Crimes

Wouldn’t it be amazing, if for 16 days, there was no rape, no child abuse, and no case of a beaten-up woman, no woman killed and stashed somewhere like garbage?

Join Men Against Rape in re-declaring a truce on no violence against women and children and making it a permanent one.

We strongly believe that men are critical partners in the fight against abuse of women and children. Men Against Rape encourages men and boys to be vocal about abuse.

Calls have been made for rapists to stop the act, campaigns have been held with the hope that men who commit rape can change their ways but the social ill rate keeps escalating.

When will it end? Read the poem below by Skinny_Cow to have an idea of how rape victims are affected by the injustice.

My Virginity

I think back to when it happened,
think back to that awful day.
The day when it all happened,
the day he took “it” away.

Fighting. Yelling. Crying.
It didn’t matter how loud I screamed.
Nobody came to help me.
Nobody came to set me free.

I still dream of running,
of trying to break away.
Of feeling him catch me,
every damn day.

I see him in the shadows,
even while I’m at home.
I close my eyes and pray he’s gone,
only then I can’t help but feel him.

To this day I feel him,
his tight grip on my wrists,
The pressure of his body
as I tried to resist.

He continued to thrust away,
as I fought and yelled and cried.
It didn’t matter how loud I screamed,
Nobody came to help me.
Nobody came to set me free.

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Rape is a traumatic experience that often results in embarrassment and left with a self-judgmental feeling. This experience leaves a victim feeling impure and dirty. Their body does not feel like it is their own.

 

Rape is an inexcusable act that needs to be stopped. As a group we need to stand together and be the voice of reason. Use the weapon that was not stripped from you. Stand up and make a difference, rape victims know how the experience feels. We need to stand together to ensure that no one else has to endure that pain.

 

It’s hard to know what to do, how to feel, or what your options are after a sexual assault. Please know that you’re not alone.

 

Here are three tips about what to do if you or anyone you know has been raped:

  1. Find a safe environment, away from the attacker. Ask a trusted friend to stay with you.
  2. Remember that what happened was NOT your fault.
  3. Ask the hospital to conduct a rape kit exam to preserve forensic evidence.

 

You may not have safety had control over the situation but you have control over what you can do thereafter.

 

Your rape does not define you.

 

You are a beautiful individual and being a victim of rape does not make you any less beautiful.

 

Do not question your life choices, you were and are not at fault. Being a rape victim was not because of the clothes you were wearing, it was not because of the underwear you were wearing that made your confidence level rise. It was not because you decided to go out and have a good eveing.

 

Rape is an act that should not be tolerated.

 

At Men Against Rape we stand up against sexual assaults, we are against these individuals being a part of society and are determined to lower the rape statistics on South Africa and the world alike.

 

 

 

It’s hard to know what to do, how to feel, or what your options are after a sexual assault. Please know that you’re not alone.

 

Here are three tips about what to do if you or anyone you know has been raped:

  1. Find a safe environment, away from the attacker. Ask a trusted friend to stay with you.
  2. Remember that what happened was NOT your fault.
  3. Ask the hospital to conduct a rape kit exam to preserve forensic evidence.

 

You may not have safety had control over the situation but you have control over what you can do thereafter.

 

Your rape does not define you.

 

You are a beautiful individual and being a victim of rape does not make you any less beautiful.

 

Do not question your life choices, you were and are not at fault. Being a rape victim was not because of the clothes you were wearing, it was not because of the underwear you were wearing that made your confidence level rise. It was not because you decided to go out and have a good eveing.

 

Rape is an act that should not be tolerated.

 

At Men Against Rape we stand up against sexual assaults, we are against these individuals being a part of society and are determined to lower the rape statistics on South Africa and the world alike.

 

 

If you do not feel comfortable in a situation and there is a sexual advance being made it is rape and you have the right to speak up!

 

 

We were alone in the house. He started off being nice, but at one point he went out and when he came back he had condoms. I was in shock – I had no idea this would happen. He then told me to get undressed and I said “what for?” I felt completely powerless and scared. He was older and bigger than me and very assertive and dominating; he made me feel compelled to do what he said. I was worried that if I refused he might get aggressive and he could turn nasty. I really didn’t want to find out what would’ve happened if I didn’t do as he said. I felt completely taken advantage of.

 

What happened to me too a toll on my confidence levels. The only person I could talk to about these experiences was my NSPCC counselor. He was so understanding and supportive. He talked it through with me and helped me work through the shock of what happened. We talked about how I can feel less powerless and safer. We worked on boosting my self-esteem. I think without his help I would have so much less confidence in myself. I’m so glad I had the NSPCC to talk to.

 

For the Ambers full story, click below:

https://www.disrespectnobody.co.uk/real-stories/ambers-story/

 

At Men Against Rape we assist in traumatic experiences through guidance. We stand against rape and believe that we can make a difference in the South African community.

 

We ask you to stand up and voice your opinions and stories. Men Against Rape is here to listen and help.

 

Contact us today and make a difference. Remember that you are not a victim but a victor.

 

I am not a victim, I am a victor.

 

 

 

 

The end of a busy work day was the start of an unforgettable night.

 

My colleagues and I were picked up by an unknown car carrying 3 men that gave off a strange atmosphere.

 

The driver took us off road. I started panicking and asked him where he was taking us, but instead of answering me the guy seated at the back with us took out a gun and pointed it straight at my head. He told us to shut up and behave or he’d blow us up. We were all so frightened.

 

We were taken to a nearby veld where the three men, all armed now, started assaulting us. They took our phones and all our belongings. One of them started to strip my uniform and forced me onto the ground.

 

He raped me right there with my colleagues helplessly watching.

 

One of the other guys, carrying what looked like a kitchen knife, came up to me and also tried to force himself on me – when I tried to resist he stabbed me in my thigh and forced my legs apart.

 

My friends watched in horror as all this was happening to me, but where still helpless.

 

The next thing I knew I was thrown back into the car. They drove off with me leaving my friends behind.

 

As the car sped off two of the guys continued assaulting me, beating me and calling me names. I prayed to God to take my life as I couldn’t take the pain anymore. It was then that the thugs threw me out of moving car on to the middle of the road.

 

As I lay there covered in my own blood all I could think was that this was the end to me. I couldn’t feel pain anymore – my whole body was numb. As I lay there I couldn’t wait for a car to hit me and finish me off.

 

But God had other plans for me.

 

I must have passed out because the next thing I knew I woke up in the hospital with friends and family by my bedside. To this day, four years later, no arrests have been made but I believe God will bring me justice one day.

 

I’m still trying to cope with what happened to me and I refuse to be called a victim of rape.  I am a victor. I survived the worst experience any woman can and I am still alive to tell my story.

 

Women are not the victims of rape; they are the victors of a brutal life experience.

 

 

Use your voice, fight for justice.

 

 

There are a quite a few reasons why victims may not report their case.

Did you know that in on average there are 147 rape cases daily?

 

Imagine the number of rapes that occur if all women report their cases.

Here are a few reasons why rape victims do not report their cases:

 

Many women fear the retaliation or intimidation of the perpetrator.

 

Some women may even lack the access to services.

 

Many women feel personal humiliation of being exposed as a victim of rape in a community.

 

Rape has a psychological effect on the minds of its victims and may not allow them to fully comprehend the intensity of the occurrence.

 

Many victims may also feel ashamed of it because they feel that their partners and loved ones may perceive them in a different manner.

 

On various occasions the perpetrator is known to the victim and is a frequent member of their lives.

 

Some may even rely on the perpetrator as a financial foundation, this occurs in scenarios whereby the victim is a child or the family may reply on the perpetrator’s income to survive.

 

We need to stand together against the fear that women have. We need to stand together to get rape victims to express themselves.

 

Could you imagine being raped, take control over and having your rights stripped away from you by the same person you wake up to everyday?

 

Why are we allowing the women of our country to go through this?

 

Let’s stand up and make a difference in society.