He was abusive..
He was an alcoholic..
He was aggressive..
Yes this is all past tense but the fact that stands is that he is my father.
Being a rape victim and being a witness both leave a mental scar in your mind.
We were afraid to sleep alone so we sleep in the same bed to feel protected from the pain that lurked in the next room. He had no shame.
Late hours of the night, the door creaked. A figure appeared, it was him.
Leave my mother alone was the only sentence to go through my mind.
Why didn’t I say something?
He stumbled across to her side of the bed, drunk of course for that was all he knew.
He climbed on top of her, I felt the bed slanting. I turned to attempt in making him acknowledge my presence but still he did not care.
He went on to do his deed with his hand over her mouth while she attempted to scream, letting out a slight stop here and there in attempt not to wake me.
Once he had completed his deed and resided back to the room he was sleeping in. Her frustration and pain let out, slight whimpers still in attempt not to wake me. She cried the night away till she eventually became too exhausted to allow her body to continue.
Did you hear her screams?
Did you hear her cries?
Did you feel the pain you caused her?
Rape is rape even if you are a couple, if your partner does not give you consent to go about your sexual act it is rape!
If you have a story to tell, even as a witness we are here to listen.
Feel free to contact us with your stories.
We are here to help.
We only met by chance because of a mutual friend who I have been friends with since high school.
I left the bathroom to go back into the bedroom to throw on my jammies and noticed under my covers a human sized figured. Instantly I ran for the towel in my bathroom and nervously stuttered a “hello”. You popped your head out and I yelped, quickly telling you our friend would not be happy that you came back, that I was tired and ready for bed.
I told you that you needed to leave, but you refused saying that “we weren’t doing anything”. You thought you were being cheeky and cute, but your refusal was terrifying and absolute. I didn’t want to overreact or make you angry- remember you were still just a strangers and we had only met just hours before.
“no, please stop”
You pulled by its legs and edged it closer to the bottom of the bed slowly forcing a subtle arch to its back, your hand firmly pushed into its lower back. Again, you penetrated what remained. Again, the body voice pleaded “please stop”.
Was it not clear to you that you had taken what I had not offered? That my consent and body was not given to you?
That body is my own. It was never yours to take.
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When an individual is sexually violated and stripped of their rights they feel helpless and incapable of being able to call their body their own because of the way it was used and mistreated.
When individuals reach out and voice their pain they are able to gain closure.
If you are seeking closure through your freedom of expression we are here to listen.
Please send us a message and let us assist in standing together to gain closure over what has occurred.
We are here to help.
Do you know what classifies a sexual act as rape?
Here are 3 things you may not have known are classified as rape:
- If You Ask Your Partner To Switch Positions And They Refuse
Yes you may have consented to the initial act although when a position becomes painful and unpleasant, when you ask to switch positions and they refuse. It is rape!
It’s never OK for someone to do something to your body after you’ve asked them not to.
- If You Tell Your Partner They’re Hurting You, But They Ignore You And Keep Going
Communication is an essential part of a relationship especially in the bedroom. If you tell your sexual partner that they are hurting you and they ignore your statement, it is rape!
Once you’ve expressed discomfort and disinterest in continuing, then it’s time to stop, and your partner should comply with that.
- If Someone Tries To Have Sex With You When You’re Incapable Of Giving Consent
If someone tries to have sex with you when you’re too drunk, high, or unconscious to agree to it, then it’s not your fault. It is rape! Not being capable of saying “no” is not the same thing as saying “yes.” Period!
Any sexual activity in which one party doesn’t give their full consent to begin with, wishes to withdraw their consent after giving it, or is incapable of giving consent in the first place, is rape!
Rape is not something to take lightly, it is a criminal offence!
He came storming through the door and his fist went flying at my face.
“I’m sorry, please forgive me,” are the words that are on repeat in a victims head. These words make you go on an emotional rollercoaster.
He punched me in the face, pushed me to the floor and got on top of me.
Then he placed a hand over my mouth. “We’re doing it anyway,” he spat.
I tried to scratch at his back to get him off me, but he just punched me and ripped my shorts and bra apart.
I was scared so I said I’d give him another chance.
I woke up to find him on top of me, holding me down.
He had one hand held tightly around my neck and the other pulling my pants down.
He raped me again.
Rape is a criminal offence and should not be tolerated!
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It’s never okay for your anyone to control you or hit you. And it’s never okay for them to rape you.
Be strong and get help.
Don’t suffer like so many others have.
You have a voice and you can make a difference in your life and many other lives.
If you, or someone you know, is suffering from domestic violence call | National counselling line: 0861-322-322 for help and guidance.
You are not alone.
You can survive rape. I have. Just.
I was raped at knifepoint and held hostage by a man who I served in a restaurant when I was a teenage girl, many years ago.
He aggressively warned me that if I made a noise or tried to struggle he would ‘slice me up like a kipper’.
He told me to sit on the floor below his feet…
I’m not going to explain what happened next but whatever you can imagine, just times it by 10 on the horrific scale, and you’ll still not quite be there. The memories of what happened live in a dark part of my mind where they belong, never to see the light of day again if I can help it.
To this day I have never set foot in my home town again. I found myself a job in a hotel where I could live in and made a new life for myself. Some years later I married and had my own children but I never told a soul about what happened to me.
Read the full story: https://leics.police.uk/maggies_story
I have always been determined that what happened was never going to destroy the rest of my life as well.
I work with victims now, mostly young people but sometimes victims of domestic violence and sex crimes. I know I have that empathy with them and their situations because of what happened to me all those years ago. We have so much training now and I’ve seen how radically differently victims are treated.
No one can change what happened but they can change the way you deal with it and help you to get the justice and support you deserve so you can move on with your life.
Please feel free to share your stories with us and give us the opportunity to help you find closure.
We are here to help you get back up and live the life you deserve.
You might forget a lot of things, but you could never forget something like this.
He pushed me down onto my back on a sofa in the family room, pulled down my pants and forced himself into me. I recall feeling acutely aware of how weak my arms felt, like jelly. I still recall the sensation of utter helplessness. I could not push him off. I recall saying “no” several times. It didn’t matter. He kept going and was done quite quickly; he pulled up his pants and in mute shock, I assembled myself and we got back into the car and went back to the party.
I vaguely recall that the dance came after the rape and that I attended it with him despite the rape, because I was trying to maintain the facade that I was so cool and nonchalant about sex that the attack had not upset me.
Read the full story: https://www.ozy.com/true-story/when-i-was-raped/89567
Even if it someone you are in an intermit relationship with. No still means no!
Yes you may love this individual but when you are forced to partake in an unwanted sexual activity, IT IS RAPE!
There are no excuses for rape.
REAL MEN DO NOT RAPE!
Why do to us what you wouldn’t want to be done to you?
Ask a man what his greatest fear is about serving jail time, and he will almost inevitably say that he fears being raped. Men fear serving a jail sentence for the same issue that women have even in their own homes.
Real Men Don’t Rape!
South Africa has one of the highest incidences of rape in the world, IN THE WORLD.
Did you know that twelve times more women are raped and murdered in South Africa than in the United States?
How would you feel having over 20 individuals take advantage of your body and use it at their leisure to satisfy their sexual desires?
Extreme violence is a major factor associated with rape. Victims are exposed to ritual humiliation, injuries such as mutilation and many result in death.
Men Against Rape stands against these dehumanizing events.
If men are afraid to be raped then why do we do it to our women?
Are they not human too?
When we educate our youth about the rights and the wrongs in society we set a stable, healthy foundation to nourish their seeds to grow.
Lesson One: NO MEANS NO!
If you have been in a situation where your NO! was not heard please don’t keep quiet. We are here to listen and provide you with the relevant help to get you back on your feet and bring back your smile.
The statistics are shocking and overwhelming.
It is estimated that over 40% of South African women will be raped in their lifetime and that only 1 in 4 rapes are reported. It is also estimated that 14% of perpetrators of rape are convicted in South Africa.
Did you know Rape and other sexual assaults are commonly available in industrialized countries, and are becoming more common throughout the world?
46.4% lesbians, 74.9% bisexual women and 43.3%
heterosexual women reported sexual violence other
than rape during their lifetimes.
34% of people who sexually abuse a child are family
12.3% of women were age 10 or younger at the time
of their first rape/victimization, and 30% of women
were between the ages of 11 and 17.
We need to stand together against these crimes and lower these statistics. We are all human and every individual has the right to live their life to the fullest and not have to worry about being sexually abused.
“He saw that I was on my period, but continued raping me..”
Stated a rape victim.
Battling to hold her tears back, the rape survivor said that upon reaching the open veld, the two assailants told her to get naked and then stared at her naked body for roughly 10 minutes.
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The sad truth is that we live in a society where certain individuals fine pleasure in the pain of others. Men Against Rape stands up against these acts. We are here to listen to the horror stories that are unfortunately the sad truth of society.
If you have a story to tell, we are here to listen and assist where possible.
Feel free to reach out to us.
I thought it was a life option but it was rather an eye opening experience.
I was a 20-year old young lady when I first experienced what it meant to be raped by those that were meant to protect.
An Officer, Not a Gentleman.
He poured me another drink – I hesitated.
I had to use the bathroom.
When I opened the bathroom door to exit he was standing there with his pants off. He grabbed me in a huge bear hug and pushed me into the adjacent bedroom.
Begging made no difference, could he not hear my pleading for it to stop?
Could no one hear my pleading?
He was stronger than me.
He pulled at my underpants until they tore. He jumped on top of me as I pulled to turn sideways. His voice was angry now.
At 20-years old, I was a victim of rape.
At Men Against Rape we stand up against these kinds of inappropriate behaviors performed by men.
REAL MEN DON’T RAPE!
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